Secrets of Healthy Relationships: Integrity

Integrity is the ability to integrate the values of your heart into your daily actions.  The feeling that you get when you know what you're doing is right, that's integrity.  You don't slip into integrity.  It's something you decide on in life.

God places a very high value on integrity.  I Chronicles 29:17 states. "I know, my God, that You test the heart and are pleased with integrity."  Integrity in his children makes God happy.

Integrity is important to God but it's important to all of us too.  All of us want to have integrity between our values and daily actions.  We struggle when we don't.  This frustration is felt in all areas of our lives but we really feel it in our relationships.

What are some practical things that you can do and I can do to practice integrity?

1.  Speak honestly

2.  Confess regularly

3.  Live consistently

4.  Commit openly

Speak Honestly

You can't fake honesty, especially with the people you're closest to.  They'll know whether you're being honest or not.  And if you catch somebody in a lie in a relationship the trust level goes way down.  Speaking honestly is a very important part.

Speak honestly the way the Bible says to do it.  Eph. 4:15 "Speak the truth in a spirit of love".  Some people speak the truth in a relationship in a way that destroys the relationship rather than builds the relationship.  As God’s people we must be honest with those we love, but we must do it with the grace and mercy of Jesus.

Confess Regularly

When you're wrong admit it.  James talks about doing that.  James 5:16 "Admit your faults to one another and pray for each other."

Let the principle of forgiveness begin to work in all your relationships. As God has forgiven you, you need to forgive others.  In Jesus Christ we find the forgiveness that we all need.  That's where that strength comes from to forgive others.

Live Consistently

We all struggle with consistency.  It takes effort to develop respect and integrity.  At times it seems impossible, but with help with the Holy Spirit we can be consistent with our words and actions.

Commit Openly

Make up your mind today to live a life of integrity and tell it to the right someone about your commitment.  We all need to understand what an important part, voicing our commitment plays.  We all need some people in our life that we can tell about our commitment that will help us be accountable to those commitments.  We encourage you to voice your commitment.  It's the beginning point of growth.

In Psalm 101:2 God says: "I will walk in my house in the integrity of my heart."  This journey begins with voicing a commitment.  If you're not ready to make this commitment maybe you need to begin with asking Jesus Christ to become part of your life and confess Him as Lord.

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